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How you make decisions with your spouse is a really big deal.  Just think about all of the factors that can complicate it: differences in opinion, gender, personality, background, priorities, and as much as anything, preferences!  A marriage where both spouses have all identical preferen

I'll wrap up this five part series on two notes: a) when one of you "wins" in a disagreement, the relationship loses; b) there is a way for the relationship to always win--simply disagree RESPECTFULLY!  Your objective should be to decide the best way forward, no

Now to the very core of the secret as to how you can actually disagree respectfully as opposed to fighting.  Here is a guideline my wife and I utilize, and we find that it takes a lot of hard work to apply it.  Heads-up, you will likely have the motivation to apply it only if you take sc

Okay, let's be generous with ourselves and say that only about 75% of the time we start arguing with our spouse is the result of round # ___ of the blame game.  I have a feeling that the next biggest percentage of the time it starts as a result of simply advocating for something we want.

Want to know what will get a marital disagreement off to a bad start from the git-go?

Marital disagreements or arguments in which you remain civil are not only acceptable, but inevitable.  It's fighting (verbal swordfights) that erodes the relationship, much like relentless ocean waves do a shoreline.  If your goal is to stop arguing all together (even in civil ways), or

In the final part of this series, I want to give you some specific steps for adapting your personality temperament to that of your spouse.  (Please read Parts 1-3 first).  That famous "love chapter" in Paul's first letter to Corinth tells us that real love does not insist on its' own way

I promised you in Part 2 that I would introduce you to the most signicant reason the Lord joined your two personalities in a dynamic duo.  Here it is: without your spouses' will at time countering your will, you are unlikely to learn that life "your way" is not  the life to the full

Here's the thing--God purposely created the idea that two personalities, his and hers, should live together in holy matrimony so that their different personalities can complement and supplement one another (see I Corinthians 11:11).  You know, that opposites attract thing?  It's